One, Two… Three, The Hard Way
Posted on Friday, May 12th, by CJ
My ex-girlfriend was propositioned for a three-way.
No, not now. I have no idea if she has since I dumped her, since she went psycho on me and I haven't spoken to her or seen her in several months. But that's another story for another entry. But while we were together, she was hit up for a three-way by a swinger friend of hers and her swinger friend's boyfriend. She said no, but at the time, the topic was mildly discussed. She asked me what I thought. (I know now that means "Do I have your permission?")
I honestly don't think that if I'm in a relationship that I'm capable of a three-way. It's not that I haven't thought about it — I mean, Jeebus… isn't every straight guy's dream to have a three-way? With two other women, naturally. At this point, being single and all that, I would absolutely love to have a three-way and fulfill a whole bunch of fantasies.
But, as per usual, I digress. In a relationship, I think it's kind of forbidden territory for me. Partially because I'm a little old-fashioned, and sex while you're in a committed relationship is something that goes outside the bounds of trust, which is why it would absolutely kill me if I was ever cheated on. But I also kind of agree with the Chasing Amy principle.
You remember that movie? The Kevin Smith one with Ben Affleck and Jason Lee and Joey Lauren Adams, where she plays a lesbian who goes straight for him and his best friend gets all weirded out? Well, in one of the final scenes, Ben proposes a three-way with his girlfriend and his best friend to level the playing field and make everyone comfortable with each other, and his girlfriend gives this whole speech about how she's not comfortable with it. And she asks something along the lines of what if, in sleeping with the best friend, she sees something in him that she hasn't seen before, or what if she moans differently with him and the boyfriend becomes suspicious?
The possibility's always there, especially for someone like me who thinks things might go a little awry afterwards emotionally, and it's not worth the risk to try. But then again, that's just me. I'm hard-wired to think of sex in a relationship as something special (though outside of a relationship? My body's an amusement park, come on and ride the rollercoaster, baby!) and it's something that's a bond of trust. Hence the reason why a lot of people don't sleep together on the first date, but they're fine with one-night stands.
And there's the strong possibility that after I dumped her, just to spite me, she went and had that three-way. But I'll never know, and I really don't care.