Le Click, C’est Chic
Posted on Wednesday, April 5th, by CJ
Okay, so guess what? I've actually been dating recently. Maybe that's one reason why I was late with this post. And yes, real women, not just, you know, imaginary dates or hookers. I'm sorry — they prefer the term "escorts."
Anyways, I'm a little conflicted at the moment. And for once, I'm going to ask for your help. Okay, enough with the gasping and the falling on the floor or the pointing and the laughing. Here's the question: When you meet someone, do you instantly feel the click and only continue with things if you feel it, or do things gradually grow for you?
Example: I've been on a couple dates with this chick, and I didn't feel that initial click. She's smart, she's cute, she's funny, we share a lot of things in common, including political views. But I didn't feel "le click." And I still haven't felt it, even on the second or third date.
Thing is, half of me is saying that I shouldn't end things, that I should keep it going and give it a shot because we've just met and who knows where it'll go? Why not? The other half of me is saying that I didn't feel the click, that in the past things haven't worked out when I don't feel the click because I just can't force myself to like someone and then I feel guilty for continuing things when I knew I'd just have to end things — you know, I figure I ought to cut things off before I let them go on too long.
So the question I ask you is: Do you also desire the click? Do you let things slowly develop, or do you know within a few minutes of meeting someone whether or not you're interested?
April 5th, at 9:32 am
About a year ago, I was asked out by someone who was not my “type” - he wasn’t anyone I would have thought about going out with before. Open to new people, I took the date. I hated his hair, his clothes, and had us hang out with our mutual friend for the second half of our first date because I didn’t feel the “click” as you call it. There was something about him that said I shouldn’t write him off - we got along very well and he made me laugh, blah blah blah. Ten days later he had completely changed my mind about him and the “click” happened. Today we’re living together.
Moral of my story: don’t write her off right away. The worst is you stay friends. But also, don’t lead her on. Be honest and maybe something will develop.
April 5th, at 12:19 pm
Everyone wants “le click” but I’m of the opinion that you should give it time. I don’t think its a big deal if you don’t fell “le click” right away, but more important that you’re both at similar levels of “le clickiness.” There’s no reason not to give it a chance, unless she’s so “le clicked” that she wants your babies. le click le click le click.
April 6th, at 5:10 am
I have had both, the “spark” and zap of yes I like this one, and th steady, there is something here but lets get to know each other, where it grew until we both saw something in each other…as for which is better…I’m un-decided, but the woman I plan to marry, I knew she was the one the first time I kissed her…
April 10th, at 6:02 pm
definitely give it time. i mean, if you actually do think she’s cute, funny, smart–all those great things you mentioned–then the absence of the click is probably an issue of yours, and not something flawed in her.
i hope things work out for you!